ANGER

How do you feel about anger? Growing up, I always felt that anger was “bad.” In school and at home I learned that anger made people do “bad” things, and anger was a source of “evil” in the world.

Welcome Back to Enliven, today I will be taking about Anger.

December 2019 I went to the market to get some foodstuff so I sat on the couch waiting for my turn, then suddenly a lady stepped on me and she said nothing like "Am sorry "'I was so angry because my legs were muddy.'. I tapped her and I was about to say - " Hey sister can’t you see you stepped on me."Then an old woman shouted she’s blind don't hit her sister I freeze Up when she turn and look at me, removed her glasses and tears roll down from my eyes. I then apologized to her and with tears rolling from her eyes she said sorry I never noticed I stepped on you, so I hugged her and everyone went their way.

Anger quickly generates confusion, but I’ve learned to stay patient and try to figure out what’s provoking the anger, and also to refrain from assuming myself innocent (even in situations that are utterly perplexing).

Think of what would happen if everyone learned to deal with their anger!

Ephesians 4:26. “If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day.” The Good News: When we're angry, we can do something we might regret later or act in a way that could hurt those around us. Wait until the anger dissipates before making a decision or taking action.

In the village of Eden, there was a very handsome boy named Cain and his brother, Abel, they were the first two sons of Adam. When these sons grew up, Cain became a farmer and Abel became a shepherd. 

Cain and Abel had been taught the right way to worship God. They knew that God required an offering of innocent animals as a sacrifice for their sins. But, when they came to worship God, only one brother was obedient to God. Abel brought a lamb as his offering, but Cain brought fruit from his crops as his offering. God accepted Abel and his offering, but He rejected Cain and his offering. As a result of this, Cain became very angry. He was angry at God and jealous of his brother. 

God warned Cain of the consequences of his anger. God's message to Cain was this: "Look out! Your anger is like a lion lying in wait outside your door. You must master your anger or it will master you." But Cain did not respond to God's warning. His jealousy of Abel turned into hatred.

One lovely day, as Cain and Abel were in the field together, at first he acted as a Good person but unknown to his brother Abel,'' Cain had plans, so he came up with a trick but sadly, his brother fell for the tricks. So, Cain rose against his brother and murdered him.''Thus the first man born into this world became a murderer because he did not control his anger.

Creating action steps around anger is essential because it puts you back in control of your emotions. We cannot always control what happens to us, but we can always control how we react.

'Anger is the most violent of human emotions because it involves strong feelings; anger bothers closely with sin.''The Bible does not say, "Be kind, but sin not," or "Love, but do not sin," because kindness and love are far removed from sin. But when we are angry, we are in danger of sinning. Someone has said, "If we are to be angry and sin not, we must be angry at nothing but sin."

Common roots of anger include fear, pain, and frustration. For example, some people become angry as a fearful reaction to uncertainty,  fear of losing a job, or fear of failure. Others become angry when they are hurt in relationships or are caused by pain by close friends.

We humans are funny. Sometimes we don’t let ourselves have what we want, then we’re mad when we see someone else getting what we want. Many people, when angry, simply will not admit their anger. They say, "I am NOT angry!" Others admit that they have a temper but do not see it as a serious sin.

Anger is what happens when you don’t listen to yourself. When you ignore your impulses and intuition and let yourself be swayed against your inner guidance. Anger won’t let you get away with going against yourself.  Anger requires a thoughtful, attentive ability to listen, to truly hear how you feel, what you think, what your instincts are. When these essential pieces of information get pushed aside anger will yank you back and demand your attention.

Listen to yourself, what is your inner guidance saying?

1. When someone keeps you waiting a long time, you do not have to lose your temper. You can say, "Lord, You know that I need to learn patience. You are in control of my circumstances, and you have allowed this to teach me to be more patient."

2. When someone says or does something that hurts your pride, you don't have to get angry. You can say, "Lord, You know how proud I am. I thank you for dealing with me about my sinful pride."

3.  When others do not do what you want them to do and you cannot have your own way, this is your chance to die to SELF. You can say, "Lord, I always want to have my own way, but you know what is best for me. I accept your way."

Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, or motivate you to find solutions to problems.

Anger teaches us to address our true thoughts and feelings as they arise so they don’t reach this point of fermentation.  Anger can feel like a last resort to release any repressed emotions.  Learning this lesson is about learning how to express yourself honestly and completely at the moment rather than burying it for a later date.

 

One step in dealing with your anger is to stop and analyze, ask yourself is it righteous anger, sinful anger, or a mixture of both? Think about why you’re angry.

Anger can be controlled if you analyze it as to its source, recognize and confess it as sin, and deal decisively with it as you walk in the Spirit.

God used this approach with Cain when He asked, “Why are you angry?” (Gen. 4:6). God never asks questions to gain information, but rather to help the person think about the situation from God’s perspective. 

Cain was angry because God had rejected his sacrifice and he was jealous of his brother, whose sacrifice God had accepted. God went on to exhort Cain to do well and to warn him that sin was crouching at the door, ready to devour him. But Cain ignored God’s counsel and murdered his brother.

Anger is energy; you need to recycle that energy into something more productive. 

 It’s important to know how to properly manage and face your anger when you feel it. To do so, you should look for physical activity you can take your anger out on, and during that physical activity, you should picture the anger leaving you as you feel the relief of exercise. 

You could also kick something, hit a pillow, or even throw stones, and visualize your anger leaving your body during these activities. You also have to be able to release it without hurting yourself or others. This takes emotional intelligence or knowing how to express, resolve, and confront your emotions without hurting anybody.

Don’t forget to look for the origin of your anger and learn what it’s trying to teach you. Learning from your emotions is a form of growth. Knowing how to manage them means expressing them without hurting yourself or anyone else. Transforming your anger into learning means healing yourself from deep inside.

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